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Dear Woke Progressives: We Are Not All Your Pet Queers
You don't speak or stand for all of us
I usually do a good job of not letting the gender debate get to me emotionally but, lately, I am angry. I am angry that people who champion the elimination of women’s spaces and the indoctrination of children claim to be doing it on my behalf—for the “2SLGTBQIA+” as the acronym is written in Canada. While I feel no attachment to this acronym (in fact, I hate everything it stands for politically and philosophically) I am an “L” and I am swept up in it every time it is invoked.
Never have I been more frustrated than at reactions to last week’s protests against indoctrination in Canadian schools. These protests were framed by the Canadian media and by far-left Canadian politicians as hateful, ultra-conservative, and anti-2SLGTBQIA+.
“The rise of hate towards the 2SLGBTQI+ community is deeply alarming,” bloviated federal NDP leader Jagmeet Singh on X.
“Transphobia, homophobia, and biphobia have no place in this country,” simpered Prime Minister Justin Trudeau.
And Alberta NDP leader Rachel Notley came along with the final nail in the coffin of my patience: “To the queer and trans kids being targeted by today’s protests, I say this — you are not alone.”
All I want to scream at them is, “You are making people hate us! You are using and stretching the goodwill accrued by the gay rights movement to its absolute breaking point for your own political gain and you don’t care that by connecting us to radical queer activists you are tossing the rest of us under the bus.”
To be clear, I know that there are plenty of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and trans-identified people who do feel represented by these woke progressives because they are woke progressives themselves. It is a disappointing state of affairs, but it is the reality of the situation.
The thing is that I don’t pretend to speak for those people. But they do not offer me the same courtesy. When they speak of the gay or “2SLGTBQIA+” community they pretend to speak for all of us. They subsume us all, and it doesn’t seem to occur to them that any same-sex attracted or even transsexual people like my friend Lois could possibly think differently.
But we do exist and we do think differently. Some of us have not been captured by the constructivist, postmodern madness of queer theory. We know that humans can’t change sex and we know that it is appalling to brainwash kids into thinking that they can.
We are not perpetual victims and we don’t try to control people’s speech, beliefs, and thoughts. We ask to be allowed to live our lives how we see fit while respecting how people want to live theirs. And—speaking purely for myself here—I feel grateful to live in a society where I have been able to live my life as an openly same-sex attracted woman with my partner of 16 years.
I am not oppressed, and I believe things were very good until queer activists started making insane demands on the rest of society.
The “live and let live” attitude prevailed until they started targeting children. Destroying women’s sports and spaces was one thing, but that had been happening for decades without the level of public outrage we are seeing now that people are aware of how children are being targeted with sexualization and indoctrination onto gender ideology and queer theory.
And now comes the worst part—people who are waking up to what’s going on and starting to fight back are being painted as “anti-gay” or “anti-LGBT.” Think about how crazy that is for a second: they are angry about the sexualization of children and are being told that makes them anti-gay. The messaging from the woke progressive side is that to be pro-gay is to be pro-sexualization of children.
Their abusive, incessant forced-teaming is fueling a backlash against regular LGB & T people who have been getting along fine with the rest of society, and my anger is directed solely at the people who are pulling this stunt. At a certain point, I can’t blame a parent who doesn’t understand the ins and outs of political and philosophical divisions in the alphabet community and takes the queer activists at face value and considers us all to be in the same boat, targeting their children.
But I am an eternal optimist. There are many people who do know that we aren’t all like that and who appreciate those of us who are willing to speak out more than ever. In stark contrast to what is happening today, the days of gay activism where the main message was that we just want to be free to love who we love now seem like the good ol’ days. I get constant messages of support and reassurance and I firmly believe the majority still wants to live and let live. I am nothing if not always aware of everything and everyone I have to be grateful for.
At the same time, I know I am lucky to live where I live and to have the friends and family I am surrounded by. No matter what happens, I believe I will be fairly insulated from the brunt of the backlash. This is not the case for many LGB & T people both in the West and around the world. In fact, I believe what is happening in Uganda, with a recent and even tougher crackdown on homosexuality, is a direct reaction to unhinged Western queer activism.
This is why I think it is so important that we have examples of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and trans-identified people who are not the pet queers of these woke progressives, and who do not let them get away with pretending to speak for all of us. We have to make it impossible for them to paint us all with the same brush. Many of us live in reality, many of us are not coming for other people’s children, and many of us are sick of being represented by activists and politicians who stand for the opposite of what we believe in. We matter too, and we won’t be silenced.
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