I can’t tell you how many times I have had a member of the TQ+ (and, disappointingly, LGBs who have swilled the queer swill), tell me that I have to support gender ideology or some nebulous they will come for me next. They, I’ve come to ascertain, are generally your run-of-the-mill conservatives. Sure, the TQ+ will claim they are talking about the alt-right, far-right, or fascists, but we all know that anyone a smidge right of center (which itself has moved left) is literally a Nazi.
I’ve been called a bootlicker. I’ve been assured that my rights are on the line if I don’t recite that trans women are women, even if the “trans woman” in question happens to be a convicted pedophile who the Canadian government is pampering in a women’s prison.
There are so many things so fundamentally wrong with this line of thinking that it’s difficult to know where to begin.
Let’s dive right in with the emotional abuse angle!
Telling me that I have to be aligned with you politically and ideologically or someone else is going to come after me is fundamentally manipulative. It is an abuse tactic no different than when an abuser tells their partner, “you can’t leave me because no one else could ever love you.”
It is also forced teaming—another abuse tactic. Forced teaming tries to make it seem like the LGB and TQ+ are in a shared predicament and therefore have shared interests, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. I can do nothing but laugh at the idea that my predicament as a same-sex attracted woman shares anything in common with a heterosexual autogynephilic man.
It’s true that the TQ+ contains more than just AGPs, but let’s face it: that’s really what the argument boils down to. When people tell me, as a lesbian, that I must believe in gender identity and that I must believe it is more important than sex, what they are really saying is that I must welcome these men, specifically, into women’s spaces and sex lives.
And you know that it’s ultimately about sex because of the torrent of rage unleashed by these narcissistic men when they are told “no.”
This leads me to the other reason why trying to force team me with such men and with other gender ideologues is so absurd: they are my current largest political threat, not the conservative boogeymen.
Trans activists and the laws and policies they have pushed have made it so that as a woman and as a lesbian I no longer have access to single-sex spaces and services here in Canada. All are de facto unisex. If a man who claims to have a “gender identity” is refused access, he can file a human rights complaint with tribunals that are ideologically on his side.
I have been out since I was 16 years old. Trans activists have done more damage to my rights than conservatives could ever have dreamed. Over the years, conservative people were growing more and more tolerant along with the rest of society. If they were going to come after me, then they had plenty of time in the years between Canada legalizing same-sex marriage and losing its mind with Bill C-16.
I am not, however, naive. I recognize that there is a growing backlash among the political right that is being directly fueled by gender ideology. This is becoming one of the main reasons why I remain involved in this discussion. I will be damned if I let these queer activists become the sole representatives of people like me.
And if the backlash can’t be stopped and does eventually blow back on me in a significant way, I will point the finger squarely at trans and queer activists for causing it all.
You went into the schools. You went after kids. You started calling it a hate crime when someone used the “wrong” pronoun for you. You shut down events featuring speakers you didn’t like. You hijacked workplaces with your rainbow cult. You made all of society walk on eggshells.
It makes me sad that some people can’t distinguish between me and you. I get it more and more now. I get people calling me a groomer because they see “lesbian” in my Twitter bio and assume I’m like you, reading books about sex to kids and encouraging them to get on puberty blockers. I have plenty of ire for people who lazily lump us all in the same group, but I also understand why it happens and why it is going to continue happening.
At the end of the day, the bulk of the blame, in my opinion, lies with the trans movement. Conservatives who hate me (and there are far less of them than trans activists like to pretend there are) are at least honest and never pretended that they wanted a society with people like me. But the trans movement hijacked and used people like me—women and homosexuals—who were more likely to be sympathetic to those who didn’t fit the norm. And it turned right around and boldly stabbed us in the front while crying about being victimized.
I am not worried about the conservatives “coming for me next,” gender cultists. You are coming for me now while doing your damnedest to ensure that they come for me after they are tired enough of your histrionics. All I care about right now is stopping you.
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