> I had one doctor who couldn't seem to bring herself to say “woman” in my presence. It was all “pregnant people” this and “pregnant people” that.
If you're up to it at the time (and only if!), you can speak up: "I'm actually not fond of that kind of language, doctor. I grew up believing that only women can get pregnant, and that's still what I believe." The doctor may well also believe that, but is being told by higher-ups to be "inclusive".
And I'm going to guess that the vast majority of people that you and your wife meet are going to see you and think of you as exactly what you are: a happily married lesbian couple with a lovely child. If any "queer" politics issue ever comes up, you can just push it aside: "Yeah, we're not into any of that."
I would never profess to relate to what walking in your shoes as a gay woman is like or has been like for you. I will share an adage that helps me, a straight woman (adult female) who has never thought of myself as "cis" anything, is what other people think of me (or you) is none of my (or your) business!
I'm certain that when people meet you and your wife, all they see are beautiful and kind women. That's what I felt the day I met you in person. 😊
But are they Gay or are they Lesbians? I don't think there's much room for us bleeders, breeders and b*tches in the Gay men's orbit. They may claim women's symbols like Pink as in Pink News, but that's not for admiration, just appropriation, autogynephile appropriation.
I get it. While gay people don't weird me out since most of them ARE normies, the Pride flag/weird hair & nose rings set put me off and those are the ones I'm afraid are going to go all obscure-offense on me. Team Pride is one of the WORST offenders of dividing and making *everyone* uncomfortable with their fashionable thin skins and narcissistically bespoke pronouns.
You and your wife can be the examples of the 'normal', old-school lesbians who were 'cis' before it was uncool and don't have the overprivileged, insanely First World problems of the queerannoyeds.
> I had one doctor who couldn't seem to bring herself to say “woman” in my presence. It was all “pregnant people” this and “pregnant people” that.
If you're up to it at the time (and only if!), you can speak up: "I'm actually not fond of that kind of language, doctor. I grew up believing that only women can get pregnant, and that's still what I believe." The doctor may well also believe that, but is being told by higher-ups to be "inclusive".
And I'm going to guess that the vast majority of people that you and your wife meet are going to see you and think of you as exactly what you are: a happily married lesbian couple with a lovely child. If any "queer" politics issue ever comes up, you can just push it aside: "Yeah, we're not into any of that."
I would never profess to relate to what walking in your shoes as a gay woman is like or has been like for you. I will share an adage that helps me, a straight woman (adult female) who has never thought of myself as "cis" anything, is what other people think of me (or you) is none of my (or your) business!
I'm certain that when people meet you and your wife, all they see are beautiful and kind women. That's what I felt the day I met you in person. 😊
But are they Gay or are they Lesbians? I don't think there's much room for us bleeders, breeders and b*tches in the Gay men's orbit. They may claim women's symbols like Pink as in Pink News, but that's not for admiration, just appropriation, autogynephile appropriation.
You're 'normies'.
I get it. While gay people don't weird me out since most of them ARE normies, the Pride flag/weird hair & nose rings set put me off and those are the ones I'm afraid are going to go all obscure-offense on me. Team Pride is one of the WORST offenders of dividing and making *everyone* uncomfortable with their fashionable thin skins and narcissistically bespoke pronouns.
You and your wife can be the examples of the 'normal', old-school lesbians who were 'cis' before it was uncool and don't have the overprivileged, insanely First World problems of the queerannoyeds.