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Almost all of Western medicine seems to be merrily perpetuating a medical scandal. Yesterday I had to fill out an online check-in for a medical appointment. I'm in a blue state in the US--maybe this is old news in Canada? But for the first time filling out such a form, I was asked to choose my "gender identity" from a long list that included genderqueer, gender fluid, demi-girl, demi-boy, asexual, pansexual, and 4 or 5 more that I can't remember. WTF!

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I've run into a couple of forms now that include a "non-binary" option but nothing quite as ridiculous yet!! I don't have too much interaction with the medical system however, but that's about to change so I'm curious what I will run across!

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Oh yeah, nonbinary was one of them. This is a portal in the US called MyChart that is used by some hospital/medical systems and not others. I expect you just have one in Canada with socialized medicine? Side note--the medical system for this appointment is the local Catholic hospital called Providence. Last I heard, they won't tie a fertile woman's tubes (even one I knew who had serious medical as well as economic reasons for her request) because she "may want more children someday," and they oppose and will not perform abortions, but they're all in with the gender BS party! Like most big corporations, I guess they want the effortless rainbow social justice points. The people who instated this long list into the form may really think they are providing a kinder, more inclusive space. It's one thing for an old gal like me to scream a bit at my phone and just ignore the question. But when you think about teenagers choosing from a medically approved list of genders or boutique sexual identities, it's horrible.

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You're absolutely right about Providence and the whole Catholic health enterprise. 1 in 7 U.S. hospitals are Catholic-owned. They happily deny women needed treatment because "faith."

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Patent medicine fraud.

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Which medical provider's form had this shopping list? And how in the world could anything be relevant to medical care other than male and female? (rhetorical question). That list is a complete jumble of sex and gender identity. I can see a medical provider asking how a patient wishes to be addressed (Mr., Mrs. Miss, Ms, none of the above) and certainly a doctor can ask if someone is sexually active and what type of birth control they are using, but no medical decisions or verbal communications are going to be made on the basis of demi-girl/demi-boy, gender fluid, genderqueer or even pansexual.

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Looks like I replied to anonymous Coward instead of you, sorry!

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I have had to put gender identity for my kids on their medical forms for a few years now. Even for my 4 year old, including when he was a baby. These are electronic forms so you must put an answer, you can’t skip it. Three choices: make, female, non-binary/other. I wonder if there are any parents checking the “non-binary” box for their infants.

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Parents at the local nursery ‘transed’ their 3 year old from male to female (!) and when the next baby came along they decided (she?) was non binary. This is child abuse.

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*male

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Those of us who know that sex is binary know you meant male, not make. But perhaps someone new to this thought that make was yet another gender!

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Lol! Make-your-own gender!

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Hey Holly! See my answer to Eva below--it's MyChart. I am not sure if this part of the check in is a MyChart thing or a Providence (local hospital) thing. I have used MyChart for several different medical providers, never saw this gender identity smorgasbord before yesterday. I tried to go back in and find exactly what they asked so I could take a screenshot, but I haven't been able to find it again. They allow me to change everything else in my medical history and contacts etc. I mean, what if I was feeling demi-girl yesterday when I filled it out, but genderqueer today? I may have to dig some more...

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Why, Elizabeth, if you were feeling demi-girl yesterday and genderqueer today that would mean you are gender fluid! lol

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In some jurisdictions Birth Certificates no longer ask for Mother and Father; they ask for names of: Parent #1, Parent #2, Parent #3 (sperm/egg donor) Parent #4 (surrogate)

It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World ! (Great movie, 1963)

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Thank you so much for this post, and also for speaking against "sexual orientation." That term drives me nuts and does not come from Lesbians or Lesbian Feminists but is from the "Born this Way" club that, like so much else going on against Lesbians and women, erases the reality of choice, giving us no credit for who we risk so much to love.

https://keepingreallesbianfeminismsimple.wordpress.com/2018/10/05/lesbians-born-this-way-or-a-making-a-choice-of-pride/

Yes, it's part of the sexualization of us from birth now. When I looked up what "Lesbian" was, around 1960, it said something like "women sexually attracted to women." I was ten and had no idea what sexual meant other than something creepy as shown in the media. (I was also raised catholic.)

But I was in love with other girls from my earliest memories and that feeling was more powerful than anything in my life. When my first lover and I began to be lovers, we followed out hearts to passion and then knew exactly what to do in terms of making love, without sex manuals, porn, paraphernalia, etc. It was so perfect, but I fear that few girls now have such a perfect beginning to being Lesbians, because we are surrounded with horrific porn imagery everywhere. The effects of that do not go away. It's part of numbing us into not being in touch with our love and passion. It isolates our hearts and minds from our bodies. It's not a female way to be.

Thank you so much for this post, and also for speaking against "sexual orientation." That term drives me nuts and does not come from Lesbians or Lesbian Feminists but is more with the "Born this Way" club that, like so much else going on against Lesbians and women, erases the reality of choice, giving us no credit for who we risk so much to love.

Yes, it's part of the sexualization of us from birth now. When I looked up what "Lesbian" was, around 1960, it said something like "women sexually attracted to women." I was ten and had no idea what sexual meant other than something creepy as shown in the media. (I was also raised catholic.)

But I was in love with other girls from my earliest memories and that feeling was more powerful than anything in my life. When my first lover and I began to be lovers, we followed out hearts to passion and then knew exactly what to do in terms of making love, without sex manuals, porn, paraphernalia, etc. It was so perfect, but I fear that few girls now have such a perfect beginning to being Lesbians, because we are surrounded with horrific porn imagery everywhere. The effects of that do not go away. It's part of numbing us into not being in touch with our love and passion. It isolates our hearts and minds from our bodies. It's not a female way to be.

Thank you so much for this post, and also for speaking against "sexual orientation." That term drives me nuts and does not come from Lesbians or Lesbian Feminists but is more with the "Born this Way" club that, like so much else going on against Lesbians and women, erases the reality of choice, giving us no credit for who we risk so much to love.

Yes, it's part of the sexualization of us from birth now. When I looked up what "Lesbian" was, around 1960, it said something like "women sexually attracted to women." I was ten and had no idea what sexual meant other than something creepy as shown in the media. (I was also raised catholic.)

But I was in love with other girls from my earliest memories and that feeling was more powerful than anything in my life. When my first lover and I began to be lovers, we followed out hearts to passion and then knew exactly what to do in terms of making love, without sex manuals, porn, paraphernalia, etc. It was so perfect, but I fear that few girls now have such a perfect beginning to being Lesbians, because we are surrounded with horrific porn imagery everywhere. The effects of that do not go away. It's part of numbing us into not being in touch with our love and passion. It isolates our hearts and minds from our bodies. It's not a female way to be.

But even worse is the medicalizing of children for profit and to virtue signal. It's criminal and irreparable.

Meanwhile, while hormones are tossed to kids with no concern about the consequences, good luck to women in trying to get access to them for real and serious health problems, and anything else we should have a choice about.

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Thank you for speaking from a place of truth (and basic common sense).

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My first thought upon reading it was also why would a child need to “explore their sexual orientation”?? Great article as usual.

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"Safe spaces" for children/youth is in the HOME.

Puberty/adolescence is the process where/when gender is experimented and identity is consolidated.

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Eva, when my income is more stable I will subscribe 😊

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“U-Pick Queer Farm” lol

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I forgot to say, I love the title too!

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